From intentions to self-compassion

Our journey continues as we explore this month how to cultivate self-compassion and kindness, one mindful step at a time.

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Hello, dear subscribers!

Thank you for joining me on this path. As we enter the third edition of this publication, I’m deeply grateful for your presence and your interest in creating a more joyful, fulfilling life. It means so much to me.

With January behind us already, let’s remind ourselves that even when things seem still, change is always unfolding. Here in northern England, the days are gradually growing longer (yay!) And yet, the unpredictable weather here—rain, hail, sunshine, snow, and gusty winds all in one day—keeps me on my toes. It’s such a contrast to the warm, steady summers I grew up with in Peru. This constant flux serves as a powerful reminder of impermanence.

Like the weather, our experiences and emotions are always changing, often in unexpected ways. By accepting this natural ebb and flow, we can learn to appreciate fleeting moments of beauty—like the rainbow below 🌈✨ and remain steady when challenges arise. Just as storms eventually pass, so too do our difficulties, leaving us stronger, more grounded, and open to joy.

Thank you, January!

Over the past month, we’ve explored themes to set a mindful tone for the year:

🌟 Intention setting: Have you checked out the post “Goal Setting? Nope. Intention Setting!”, I suggest moving away from rigid goals and embracing more flexible, compassionate intentions. If you’d like, you can also listen to the audio of the “Dropping the Pebble” practice to guide you through this process 🎧

📝 Notes: You can follow my daily reflections here. I’ve shared thoughts on perfectionism, short mindfulness practices, parenting, and life’s ups and downs. I hope these notes resonate with you and offer a small moment of connection in your day.

🎧 Guided meditations: I’ve shared a few guided meditations to support your daily practice. Please remember that it’s okay if your mind wanders. It’s completely normal, that’s what minds do. As best you can, bring your attention back to the present with kindness and compassion.

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💖 Are you ready for Self-Love Day?

For many years now, I’ve called Valentine’s Day my Self-Love Day. Instead of focusing solely on romantic gestures, I take the opportunity to nurture my own well-being and cultivate kindness towards myself as well. Over time, I’ve discovered a few practices that feel especially meaningful and restorative. Perhaps these suggestions can inspire your own Self-Love Day celebration:

1. Starting with self-compassion

   Taking a few moments to check in with yourself. What do you need most right now? Is it rest, encouragement, or a little playfulness? Imagine how you would comfort a friend in your situation, and then extend that same care inward. Even a brief self-compassion break, where you pause, acknowledge how you’re feeling, and remind yourself you’re not alone, can set a tender tone for the day.

2. Creating a gentle morning ritual

   Begin the day with something that feels nourishing. It might be a mindful cup of tea or chai (a personal favourite), a leisurely stretch, or a short meditation that reminds you of your worth. Starting the day slowly and with intention can help you carry that kind awareness through the hours ahead.

3. Do something you truly enjoy

   Often, we push our own joys aside for the sake of productivity or others’ needs. Today, giving yourself permission to embrace what makes you happy: reading a book you’ve been longing to open, taking a walk in nature, dancing to your favourite music, or savour a homemade meal. These small pleasures are acts of self-kindness.

4. Reflecting on your strengths

   Taking a few minutes to write down what you appreciate about yourself. What qualities do you value? What challenges have you overcome? Celebrate the unique strengths and traits that make you who you are. This gentle reflection can reinforce a sense of self-acceptance and gratitude for your journey.

5. Ending with gratitude

   Closing the day by noticing something you’re grateful for, whether it’s a moment of calm, a supportive friend, or even the self-love practices you’ve embraced. Gratitude fosters a sense of abundance and contentment, reminding you of the beauty in your life and within yourself.

By treating Valentine’s Day as Self-Love Day, you shift the focus inward, acknowledging that nurturing your own heart is just as important as showing kindness to others. So, how will you celebrate this year? Feel free to reply to this email. I’d love to know.

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✍️ Journal prompts

Take a moment to ground yourself by taking a couple of long, deep breaths. Then, consider the following question: What would it feel like to offer yourself the same kindness and understanding you give to others?

As you reflect, you might explore these questions:

• Which of your own needs have you been overlooking, and how can you begin to address them with self-compassion?

• Is there a small act of forgiveness—towards yourself or a past choice—that could lighten your heart?

• How can you remind yourself that you also deserve care, patience, and gentle encouragement every single day?

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💌 Join A Kindfulness Journey

If this resonates with you, I’d love for you to be part of our community.

A Kindfulness Journey is a space where we explore mindfulness, self-compassion, Radical forgiveness, and living with intention. It’s a space for recovering perfectionists, mindful mums, and anyone looking to build a kinder relationship with themselves.

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Thank you for being part of A Kindfulness Journey. I hope these reflections and resources support you in cultivating self-compassion, and mindfulness this month. I’d love to hear your thoughts, so feel free to reply and share your experiences with me.

Warmly,

Pili